The American Psychological Association (APA),explained psychological resilience as the ability to cope with adversity and to adapt to stressful life events, varies widely from person to person and depends on environmental as well as personal factors. It refers to positive adaptation, or the ability to maintain mental and physical health despite participating in stressful situations.
According to Very Well Mind, some of the main characteristics of a person who has resilience are awareness, self-control, problem-solving skills, and social support. Resilient people are aware of situations, their emotional reactions, and the behavior of those around them. By remaining aware, they can maintain control of a situation and think of new ways to tackle problems. The key traits of psychological resilience according to Very Well Mind are: problem-solving skills, strong social connections, survivor mentality, emotional regulation and emotional intelligence and self-compassion. Other key traits of psychological resilience are: being authentic, flexible thinking and reaching out for help.
How to Develop Psychological Resilience
Spending Time in Nature: Nature itself is healing; by immersing yourself in nature it helps to raise your vibrations and build you up energetically. I can personally testify to this as I love spending time in nature a lot. At one time I went out to the woods, it was very quiet and cool. I literally enjoyed the sweet quietness; I did not feel like going back home—I guarantee you that nature is therapeutic.
Meditation and Affirmations: As humans we all have our problems; telling your problems to God/Angels/Universe/Cosmic Forces etc plays a tremendous role in overcoming your challenges. I will remind you that the invisible precedes the visible. According to Florence Scovel Shinn, “Your word is your wand.” And I agree completely; what you tell yourself is what matters most. Cultivating the habit of positive affirmations will imprint it in your subconscious mind. Once your subconscious mind picks this signal; it equips you with developing a sense of optimism because a positive mindset can help you stay hopeful in the face of challenges and a positive mindset can help you achieve a positive life.
Books: Reading about people who have experienced and overcome a similar problem can be motivating and suggest ideas on how to cope. Also reading success stories of others (even if it is not the same with the problem you are facing)
Support Groups: On our own we are powerful but when we join forces, we become unstoppable. Even the Bible said that one will chase a thousand but two will chase ten thousand! Whether it is civic groups, faith-based communities, or other local organizations. Research groups in your area that could offer you support and a sense of purpose and joy when you need it. Joining a support group of likeminded people is a great way to find a network of people who can provide compassion, support and the opportunity for you to talk about the challenges you are facing and express your vulnerability because vulnerability is strength!
Learn from your past. By looking back at who or what was helpful in previous times of distress, you may discover how you can respond effectively to new difficult situations.
Accept change. Accept that change is a part of life. Certain goals or ideals may no longer be attainable as a result of adverse situations in your life. Accepting circumstances that cannot be changed can help you focus on circumstances that you can alter.
Look for Opportunities for Self-Discovery: According to Mooji,
step into the fire of self-discovery, this fire will not burn you it will only burn what you are not.” “Man know thyself.” Socrates also said “the unexamined life is not worth living.” Embrace personal development. Always remember that a mind stretched by new knowledge can never go back to its prior form. People often find that they have grown in some aspect as a result of overcoming a struggle. This can increase a sense of self-worth, happiness and wisdom and heighten your appreciation for life.
Help Others. Shelly Rogers Johnson said it well: “No man can sincerely try and help another without helping himself.” Whether you volunteer or support a friend in their own time of need, you can garner a sense of purpose, foster self-worth, all of which can empower you to grow in resilience.
Avoid Negative Outlets. Do not cover your pain by indulging in alcohol, drugs, or other substances. While it can give you a momentary relief the aftermath can be catastrophic. Also avoid toxic and bad people in your life.
Practice Gratitude and Mindfulness. A grateful mind is a magnet for miracles. Mindful journaling and yoga can also help people restore hope, which can help them to deal with situations that require resilience.
Take care of your body. Health is wealth. Self-care may be a popular buzzword, but it is also a legitimate practice for mental health and building resilience. Stress is just as much physical as it is emotional. Promoting positive lifestyle factors like proper nutrition, ample sleep, hydration, and regular exercise can strengthen your body, mind and soul.
Maintaining Good Interpersonal Relationships: Friends, family, and the community can lift you up and give you the support you need when you are in need
Kingsley Osajie 