Kingsley Osajie

Advice For Writers

In the course of my writing journey and career, I have made many mistakes. But those mistakes served as a lesson and I have used them as a stepping stone! Before I start bringing out the tips; let me tell you more about some of the mistakes I made. I am sure you will learn from it. First of all I am kind of ashamed it but I have to make the confessions (LOLS).

At the beginning of my writing career; I used to have the worry that “oh…there are lots of books in the marketplace; who is going to buy my book? How can I get attention, wider readership and blah blah blah… but I was able to overcome this limiting belief. I finally came to realize that the Universe has more than enough space for everyone to express their talents and potentials. That there are millions books in the marketplace will not serve as a barrier for me and my books in any shape or form. One thing I learnt along the way is that everyone has their own audience and followers.

Let me illustrate the analogy that helped me burst through that limiting belief: if you walk into a market you will see that not only one person sells clothes, food items, meat, fish, etc. in that same market you see many people selling the same wares and stuffs and it does not stop them from having customers and patronages. So the same thing applies to my writing. Just because there are millions of books out there do not mean that I will not have readers, buyers and followers. I SURE will and I am having them already because I have empowered myself with the belief THAT I HAVE my own audience and it is just the fact.

I used to have this belief that once I have my book published by a publisher; it will start selling and my royalties will start rolling in (smiles). But the reality I have experienced is quite a different one! Although it has served as a LESSON for me! Yes, I am “Traditionally Published” but as it stands now, I am determined to take the route of self-publishing in my next books. I was rejected by 13 publishers before I finally found a publisher in America who agreed to publish my book.

Today, my story of how I became a published author is published in a South African platform (I will share the details later in this article; in the meantime keep reading)

I have a dream of establishing my own Self-Publishing platform subsequently. I want to be in charge of my books completely. I want to be the only one to receive whatever dime that comes from my book as a royalty; I want to take it up as my own personal business and investment—so that when I am using my resources to promote my books I will know all the benefits are coming back to ONLY ME. I am faithful that my dream of having my own Self-Publishing platform will inevitably become a reality.

After having a deeper understanding of how the publishing industry works and the way it is going; I conclude for myself that self-publishing is the best option for me. It no longer pleases me to “hand over” my manuscript to a publisher (unless on a “special situation” because there are always exceptions)

So, here are the advices I have for any upcoming writer or anyone who wants to consider going into writing:

Writing is a craft, like playing a musical instrument or painting with oils. Every aspiring writer must acquire this craft, just as every musician must learn his or her instrument. Today some high schools and most colleges offer creative writing courses, and so do various writer’s critique groups. If you look around you will undoubtedly find one in your area.

Whether you take a formal course or not, most of the craft must be acquired on your own. The best place to begin is the public library, which is full of good books written by people who know how to write. Check out good books by good writers in the genre in which you are interested. Analyze their styles, see how they set up a scene, how they do dialogue, how the characters are introduced and developed, how the writer makes the names memorable or fails to do that, how the story is paced, how the action unfolds, how the conflicts develop, how the subplots are made part of the story, how the climax is handled. Analyze the scenes, find the key words which bring out the emotion of a scene, study how the writer got his effect, how he uses verbs and adverbs, try to decide why he used the key words he did. Why did the writer choose the point-of-view he used, did he shift verb tenses, why are the paragraphs where they are, why did he use action verbs in one place and “to be” verbs in another?

I recommend that every aspiring writer join a critique group. Smaller is usually better. Each person in the group must commit to write on their story every week and submit it for criticism, and they must agree to make the time to read everyone else’s submissions. Craft is learned here, and you can see how your stuff strikes readers. And by pointing out weak places in other people’s craft, you are forced to reexamine your own.

The weak point of critique groups is that egos occasionally get involved. If the discussion is collegial and everyone is trying to help every member get better at the genre they have chosen, all will go well. But if egos get out of control, the wise course is to find another critique group.

I also recommend that every aspiring writer attend one or more writer’s workshops which are held on an annual basis all over the country. Google Writer’s Workshops and see what pops up. In addition to discussions of craft which are scheduled throughout the workshops, attendees bring samples of their own work to show to the professional editors and literary agents who often attend. It is here, in a writer’s workshop, that you will have your first opportunity to pitch your work to an agent. The agent you meet at a workshop may well be the agent who ultimately takes you on as a client when you finally have a truly commercial manuscript ready to go.

Originality

Beginning writers are well advised to write about something they know. Many beginners try to write about people and places and events that they know absolutely nothing about and consequently expend vast quantities of time and effort but cannot get the story to read right.

The flip side of writing about what you know is the publishing reality that originality sells. To break into publishing and establish a major career, you must go boldly where no one has gone before, to steal a phrase. First novelist J. K. Rowling wrote of a boy wizard at an English school. Original and fresh, her novels to date have been mega-bestsellers world-wide and made her our first literary billionaire. The list goes on and on. So the formula is originality and craft, workmanship and sweat. Lots of sweat and Grace too.

Book Doctors

First time writers, or indeed, any writer struggling with a manuscript, might consider the services of a book doctor. In the past editors at major publishers might labor over a manuscript, writing, rewriting, and if necessary, inserting or eliminating subplots, all in the effort to get a manuscript up to publishing quality. Today editors at publishing houses do not do this—they simply don’t have the time. Nor can the publishing houses afford the cost. The manuscript must arrive in-house polished and ready for the line editor, who merely checks spelling, punctuation, capitalization and the like. The book doctor, paid for by the writer, fills this empty niche. You can find these services on the web, but check out their references before sending money.

Craft aside, to write successfully you must have something to write about; every word you write is a distillation of everything you know about life, about how the world works, about how people think and feel, their motivations, their hopes, their dreams, and so on. How do you write a woman in love? Well, if you are not a woman, it would help a lot if you had known one or two who were desperately, hopelessly in love. To write successfully you must understand what it is to be human. Only then can you reduce the human experience to language and put it on paper. Our best writers drank deeply of life. Students of writing must write about other people, learn to create characters that live within the boundaries of the fictional world created by the writer. This is the very essence of the craft, without which you cannot progress.

At some point every aspiring writer must evaluate his or her work and make a realistic appraisal of its worth. Are you just laying bricks? Here is where a critique group can be of real value. Do not try to write unless you are willing to fail. If you are unwilling to let your friends read your stuff because they might not understand it, it is unpublishable–the book buying public won’t understand it either. This leads inexorably to my next point: if you have to explain to a reader what they should have gotten out of a story, it didn’t work. Go back and work on it some more. The story must stand on its own. How well it stands is a direct measure of how well you have mastered the craft of writing.

The Courage to Fail

Speaking of the courage to fail, through the years I have noticed a curious phenomenon. People who are experts in literature, who know grammar, who can discuss the intricacies of plotting, characterization, setting, pacing, etc., until hell won’t have it, people who seem to have all the equipment necessary to succeed at writing fiction, rarely try it. I have no ambitions about masterpieces–I just want to write for the passion and fun books that entertain people and make a living doing it. I want to write the kind of books that I like to read. So I write and the experts read. In a way it’s sort of sad.

Once the manuscript is well written, all typos and misspellings removed, you are ready to try to get it published. The manuscript should be double-spaced on plain white paper, one side only, not bound in any way. Your name, address and phone number should be on the first and last pages of the manuscript. Do NOT submit the manuscript anywhere until you are convinced it is the best it can be.

Agents today perform the screening process that used to be done by publishing houses. Agents read unsolicited submissions and accept those they think are publishable. Today most publishing houses will not look at an unagented submission. Don’t even try. Get an agent (if you think it is your best option because you must always consider your circumstances and pocket too).

Literary agents make their money selling manuscripts to publishers, not reading them. However, do not expect a bona fide agent to return your manuscript with a long letter full of incisive literary criticism. If you want literary criticism it is only fair that you pay for it.

Breaking In

Publishers and agents all say that they are actively searching for the raw material required to keep the presses running and cartons of books on the way to bookstores. There is no conspiracy to lock out unpublished authors. Two hard realities govern the publishing world, and you must overcome them both to break in.

Book buyers like to buy brand names. They will buy a new book by an author they have read and enjoyed without even reading the blurb on the dust jacket. The consumer’s focus on established talent makes it incredibly difficult for a publisher to make a first novel a commercial success.

Most aspiring writers haven’t acquired the craft of writing, so 99% of the stuff agents and publishers see is unpublishable. Consequently, while book people are looking for publishable material, finding the jewels is like searching a hog pen for diamonds. (One editor told me that editors see so much trash, sometimes the glitter of the mediocre seems irresistible. The book-buying public, less jaded, is more fickle.)

The challenge to beginners is this: you must write a book so good, so compelling, the agents and publishers decide that the book can be sold despite the brand-name focus of the book-buying public. Remember, these people are trying to make money publishing books; they must sell books to survive. So the question is who will buy your books? Yet even if there was an audience out there, a publisher would not sign a writer unless he was firmly convinced that writer could deliver a commercial manuscript ready for the line editor with a minimum of editorial guidance, or he was holding such a manuscript in his hand.

NEVER forget–publishing is a FOR PROFIT business. Your manuscript must convince everyone all along the line that they can MAKE MONEY by publishing it. Notice that I said “your manuscript,” for truly, it must sell itself. Regardless of who you know or how persistent your agent is, the manuscript must be good enough that publishers can see how it can be sold.

More people are writing today than ever before in history. Word-processing programs and PCs have freed writers from the clerical drudgery that plagued the craft since the invention of the alphabet. In addition, the booming economy has given huge numbers of people the luxury of time, which many folks are spending at the keyboard of one of those PCs. The result is an unprecedented flood of manuscripts. The market for books, however, continues to grow slowly–while more books are sold today than ever before, the percentage of people reading continues to shrink as technology and lifestyles change. As you might imagine, all these writers searching for agents and publishers have created a bonanza for scam artists.

Be Wary

Anyone can claim to be a literary agent; there are no licensing or knowledge requirements and ethics are strictly optional. Many writers have been rejected so often by the bona fide publishing industry that they become easy prey for the unscrupulous. A few words of praise is the usual hook. Regardless of how the scam starts, eventually the subject of money will come up. The writer is requested to pay reading fees, acceptance fees, all kinds of fees, and promises flow like beer at a biker bar. Once your money is gone, it’s usually gone forever.

Once your novel is accepted by a publishing house, you will find that today you MUST get actively involved in publicizing the work. Publishers used to do all the publicity and promotion, but we live in a changing world beset by inexorable economic realities. YOUR ability and willingness to help sell the book will be a huge factor in its success. You see I emphasized the “must”–that is why I am deciding to go into self-publishing so that I can channel all my energy and resources to the success of my book with the BEST of my abilities!

My book (Cindy And Her Beautiful Bird) is available worldwide and it was nominated for the Readers Choice Awards in 2020. Here is a trailer for my book

My story of how I became a published author is published in a South African platform

You can purchase Cindy And Her Beautiful Bird at the following bookstores or wherever books sold worldwide

I wish you the very best in as pick up your pen to start writing.

Good Luck!

Kingsley Osajie

Author of Cindy and Her Beautiful Bird

www.kingsley-osajie.com

Your Ego is NOT Your Amigo

The negative operates from a lower vibration and a powerless place. When you are in the negative ego, you NEVER win. Some forms which the negative ego can take are: pride, bragging, pretense, fear, jealousy, fear, desperation, limiting beliefs, negative thoughts/voices, feelings of unworthiness etc. The negative ego is another EPITOME of lies (as limiting beliefs ARE!!)

I am very grateful to Lazaris, a Non Physical Entity of Light channeled by Jack Pursel. Lazaris explains in detail what the ego is. The ego is two types: negative ego and positive ego. But many people generalize it as ego which is not true! Self-love, self-confidence, gratitude, mindfulness, humility, honesty etc are egos too; but these are positive ego.

Our Higher Selves works with the Positive Ego. The Negative Ego can be correctly named the Devil in every human; the dark side of human beings. Assuming we as human beings do not have the negative ego we would be more like the Angels in terms of Consciousness—because Angels of Light and other Light Beings do not have the negative ego. And the positive ego is full of unlimited possibilities, celestial mandates, higher vibrations and higher consciousness all-round.

I used to wonder why someone cannot change completely. For example, nobody is perfect. Even if you are a religious leader, spiritual teacher etc you still have the negative ego in you. Only very few humans has been able to dethrone their negative egos. When someone changes from a bad habit or deed to a good path; I used to think within me in my cradle days of spiritual development and awakening that once you turn away from whatever bad thing you used to do that you will become perfect because you God/Universe will give you perfection; but I come to realize that having the negative in us is like a learning curve for us, a reminder to keep embracing the light and using our freewill. But I think it is “WORK”!! because you know how I see it and how I am feeling about this is that—if God/Universe/Angels removes the negative ego from humans we would not need their help because we will be vibrating at the same level of Consciousness as they are—and even if not exactly; our own Consciousness will be at a very high level—one worth adoring and being a force to reckon with!!

To help us further understand the Negative Ego (Devil) and the Positive Ego (Angel); here is an illustration of the Negative Ego (Devil) and the Positive Ego (Angel) as explained by Morihei Ueshiba (aka O-Sensei):

No matter how you ‘chop off’ negative thoughts they will keep appearing according to the law of action and reaction. That’s why you needn’t fight with them. You should withdraw from them, artificially developing positive thoughts inside yourself. In other words, concentrate on something good or recall something good. Only in this smooth withdrawal will you be able to defeat your negative thought.

And why can thoughts sometimes be the absolute opposite of each other? Let’s put it this way: in the human body, there is a spiritual nature, or soul, and a material nature, or animal, beastly, call it as you wish. The human mind is a battlefield of these two natures. That’s why different thoughts arise in you. And who am ‘I’ then, if thoughts are alien? Not alien, but yours. You are the one who’s listening to them. And which nature you give preference to, that you will become. If you prefer the material, animal nature, then you’ll be evil and nasty, and if you listen to the advice of your soul, you’ll be a good person, and it will be pleasant for other people to be around you.

The choice is always yours; you are either a tyrant or a saint. You turned to the soul, your wish was fulfilled. When you weakened your control over yourself, you were pulled over by the animal nature, imperceptibly for you at that, by your own favourite egoistic thoughts. There is a constant war of two natures inside of you for you. And your future depends on which side you choose.

It is possible to fight with the one who offers resistance. But fighting with a vacuum is senseless. Against a vacuum of negative thoughts, it is only possible to create the same vacuum of positive thoughts. In other words, as I’ve said before, to switch to a positive and to think about good things. But always stay vigilant, listen to what your brain is thinking about. Observe yourself. Be aware of the fact that you don’t make any effort, but the thoughts in you are constantly swarming. And not one thought. There can be two and three or even more at once.

It is like in Christianity, they say, on man’s left shoulder sits the devil, and on the right, an angel. And they are always whispering “something…” But for some reason, the devil whispers louder, he probably has a rougher voice. What’s called the devil in Christianity is the manifestation of our animal nature (Negative Ego).Well, if the mind is a battlefield of two natures, and as far as I understand it, their weapons are thoughts, then how can you distinguish who is who? How do the spiritual and the animal nature manifest in thoughts? In which way?

The spiritual nature are thoughts generated by the power of Love, in the broad sense of the word. While the animal nature are thoughts about the body, our instincts, our reflexes, megalomania, desires, which are entirely consumed by material interests, and so forth. (Sense I The Primordial of Shambala by Anastasia Novykh)

Just imagine how it would look like when you become the individual who does not have limiting beliefs, negative thoughts, negative energies and vibrations. Your aura and third eye are highly activated, clean and fortified at all times. You are in mindfulness and well connected to the Ethereal. In that kind of reality you are an Enlightened Being (suffice to say an Angel) because negative entities and energies cannot penetrate you because you are too much of a high vibrational being for them to come near to or try to penetrate!

Another thing is that the Earth has its own troubles and hiccups. As the beloved Ascended Master Kwan Yin taught us; “The realm you’re in has a heaviness that mutes energy. You can penetrate through it, no matter how dark and heavy.” It takes spiritual muscle to penetrate through the denseness of this earth (trust me!) but it is possible to penetrate through it.

It is my joy to see humans dethrone and starve their negative egos. But wait; are my daydreaming by saying that? Lols! No. Subliminally and honestly I know that this cannot happen once! It will take centuries for humanity to have come to this state of Higher Consciousness. Right now, the earth is healing, humans are healing. And humanity’s consciousness is rising to a higher level. Many are awakening (spiritually) and we are all at our own pace and time.

Always remember that your (negative) Ego is not your Amigo; because if you do not take your time the (negative) Ego will tear you down and destroy you in a twinkling of an eye. You do not want to be in that reality because like Lazaris said; the (negative) Ego can destroy all your efforts and achievements that you have laboured to accomplish in an instant.

I will say it again; if you are living from the negative Ego you will NEVER win. Quote me anywhere! I used to feed my (negative) Ego. But having caught the tricks of my (negative) Ego I now disrespect and disobey my (negative) Ego because it is not going to lead me into a positive life momentum. You have got this!

Until next time, stay mindful; in Higher Consciousness with constant Divinity.

Some Dose of Inspirations for Us Today

Hi there! What are you up to recently? As you go about your schedules and journey through Life I wish you Illumination and Higher Consciousness with Constant Divinity.

I thought to sprinkle some doses of inspirations to you; hence I am sharing these Sages with you. I am sure you draw in inspiration to help you step into a more positive life momentum. So there have you the inspirations below! Feel free to pass it on to others.

Born To Shine

Our deepest fear is not

that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are

powerful beyond measure.

It is our light,

not our darkness,

that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves,

who am I to be brilliant,

gorgeous, talented, fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?

Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.

There’s nothing enlightened

about shrinking

so that other people

won’t feel insecure around you.

We are all meant to shine,

as children do.

We were born to make manifest

the glory of God that is within us.

It’s not just in some of us,

it’s in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine,

we unconsciously give other people

permission to do the same.

As we’re liberated from our own fear,

our presence automatically

liberates others.

— Marianne Williamson

The Law of Least Effort

The Law of Least Effort is the principle of least action, of no resistance. This is, therefore, the principle of harmony and love.

Act from love. Least effort is thus expended, because nature is held together by the energy of love.

Attend to spirit rather than ego. When your internal reference point is your spirit, you are immune to criticism and unfearful of any challenge.

Accept people, situations, circumstances, and events as they are, not as you wish they were. When you feel upset, remember that you are not reacting to the person or the situation, but to your feelings about the person or the situation.

Do not blame anyone or anything for your situation, including yourself; then every situation will become your teacher, and an opportunity for the creation of something new and beautiful.

Completely desist from defending your point of view. Relinquish the need to convince others of your opinion. Make a commitment to follow the path of no resistance: simply declare your intent to yourself, and you will experience fulfillment, delight, joy, freedom, and autonomy in every moment.

Ultimately you come to the state where you do nothing and accomplish everything.

– adapted from Deepak Chopra, Seven Spiritual Laws for Success

Desiderata

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.

Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexations to the spirit.

If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery; but let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.

Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

Max Ehrmann

I got these bunches of inspirations from the beautiful and magical erin Dragonsong; the Founder and Chief Esoteric Officer of Wicca Spirituality. So pass it on! Blessed Be!

The Untold Story of the Wright Brothers that Will MOTIVATE YOU

When I was in high school, my English teacher told me about this story of the Wright Brothers. And I read about them in a local magazine. In truth, when I first story from Adavenge Onise website I was enchanted. It REALLY caught my attention! Hence I decided to share it with you! Another thing that really, really, fascinated and also re-inspired me is that Adavenge Onise is a Nigerian and am a Nigerian too!! I have been inspired and rekindled by this story of the Wright Brothers.

On my own personal experience, I have also had some challenges which I was able to overcome. Before you start reading the story of the Wright Brothers; I deem it fit to also share my story and journey of how I became a published author with you. My story was published in a South African platform and you can watch the video on YouTube. I have also grown to learn and understand impossibility only exist in the mind. Nothing is impossible…

Without further ado, there you have the story of the Wright Brothers below:

Once upon a time in the year 1903, on the 17th of December.

Two brothers and an eager crowd had gathered at the open plains of Kitty Hawk to make history.

The Wright brothers(who were bicycle makers) were attempting to make the first powered flight of an airplane.

Orville Wright climbed onboard their crude airplane.

At the back of his mind, he could clearly remember that men(who were more educated with more resources) had died in horrible crashes trying to fly their airplane designs.

His brother, Wilbur looked at him to confirm he was ready and then started the engines of the plane . . .

Orville took a deep breath and released the latch holding the plane in place…There was no turning back now.

20 seconds later,

The Wright brothers had successfully completed the first powered flight in Human history.

Before this historic flight,

Many had tried and failed(Some even died in the process)

People claimed it was impossible for an airplane to fly.

They said it was a pipe dream that would keep costing money and lives.

But here we are today. . .

Seeing a plane fly over your location is something you are used to.

Listen . . .

Everything seems impossible until someone actually does it.

Why?

It all comes down to Mindset.

How you approach a problem determines the result you get.

If you see a challenge as do-able,

You would carry this confidence into ensuring you accomplish it and surprisingly, you would always achieve it(irrespective of the challenges you face along the way).

But if you see a challenge as insurmountable,

You would quickly give up at the first sign of trouble . . .

You are reading this write up because . . . Destiny wants you to come in contact with all the tools and information you need to build an excellent and amazing life, to fulfil destiny and create income streams which would pump money into your account and solve your money issues and give you the freedom you deserve.

You might feel at this point it is impossible.

But look at the results of people around you who have fulfilled destiny, made an impact, and are earning money while they sleep.

Do you know the difference between you and them?

MINDSET…

If you want to live an excellent life and fulfill your God-given purpose on earth.

You must learn to transform your mindset.

Having finished reading this story; I want you to read carefully the lyrics of this song by the enigmatic and beautiful Irish singer: Enya. The title is Only If.

To your inspiration and motivation!!

Here are the lyrics:

“Only If…”

When there’s a shadow,
you reach for the sun.
When there is love,
then you look for the one.
And for the promises, there is this land.
And for the heavens are
those who can fly.

[Chorus:]
If you really want to,
you can hear me say
Only if you want to
will you find a way.
If you really want to
You can seize the day.
Only if you want to will you fly away.

When there’s a journey,
you follow a star.
When there’s an ocean,
you sail from afar.
And for the broken heart,
there is the sky.
And for tomorrow are those
who can fly.

[Chorus]

Ooh go doe bay mwa.
Ooh go doe bay mwa.

The Message I Have for Korra Obidi and Justin Dean

From the moment I began seeing and watching Korra Obidi and Justin Dean displaying their lovebirds attitudes on social media; I began having some doubts as to how long this their lovebirds attitudes will last. I was really skeptical about their showiness and social media display of affection. If we want to be honest with ourselves; we would ACTUALLY acknowledge it that NOT everything or moment of our lives are meant to be shared on social media. Because the social media is an open place filled with different kinds of energies, consciousness, vibrations, people and things…

Now, not long. If I am able to remember correctly; not more than two weeks after Korra Obidi gave birth to their second child. Justin Dean is now telling divorce!! I mean it sounds sooooo strange and odd!! Those of us who are intuitive and understands that there are more than meet the eyes would want to say that somehow and somewhere; a negative energy/vibration has been projected to Korra Obidi. Not everyone is happy for your success; hence the need to be MINDFUL and CAREFUL cannot be overemphasized!!

In my full transparency, I am and I was happy for the couples (Korra Obidi and Justin Dean). But the news of their divorce is enough to make someone gut-wrenched!! At first I thought it was one of this publicity stunts. Until it became very real and serious that the ex-husband of Korra Obidi (Justin Dean) came out to affirm that the divorce is TRUE. Well, only God knows what will come out of it for them. As I always tell people that every moment is a manifestation of something…and every experience is a lesson or a blessing.

Below are all the brouhahas and drama going on between Korra Obidi and Justin Dean

Korra Obidi: I’ve Been Betrayed Once Again and She Is Unbothered, Dancer’s Hubby Writes, Says He’s Heartbroken

Dancer Korra Obidi’s husband, Justin Dean, has taken to social media with yet another post amid their marital crisis Dean in the post shared to his IG page mentioned how he has always been dedicated to his family but must now leave for the sake of his mental health He equally accused his wife of being unbothered about the entire situation as netizens flooded his comment section with different reactions

The drama between US-based Nigerian dancer, Korra Obidi and her husband, Justine Dean, continues to unfold on social media to the worry and concern of their supporters. In a fresh Instagram post, Dean explained how he has always been dedicated to his family but is now being forced to walk away from his marriage for the sake of his mental health.

“I’m walking away from this marriage for my mental health and to be the best version of myself. I must set a healthy example for my children. This has nothing to do with postpartum depression,” he wrote.

The heartbroken husband mentioned how he feels betrayed and how Korra’s unbothered attitude to the crisis sums up what their marriage has been like.

“I’m heartbroken!

Anyone that knows me or watches me online knows that I’m a dedicated family man to both Korra and my children. This is honestly the hardest decision of my life, but necessary.

I’m walking away from this marriage for my mental health and to be the best version of myself. I must set a healthy example for my children.
This has nothing do with postpartum depression.

I’ve been betrayed once again and she is unbothered, which pretty much summarizes our marriage.

My apology to the all the young men and women that believed we had a “perfect marriage”.

Marriage is based on mutual love, respect, humility, accountability, empathy, apologies and most of all effective communication to understand the other person’s perspectives.

Likes and views shouldn’t be the highlight of your relationship.

Men: Your mental health matters!

In order to be strong, you have to be happy.” Justin Dean

Dancer Korra Obidi has spoken out for the first time since her husband announced their divorce.

In a video, the dancer expresses her gratitude to her supporters for their support and concern.

“I hope that me finding the strength to come up here will make you happy,” she told her followers as she thanked them.

She also said that her priority now is herself and her newborn.

“So, I’m gonna be one hundred percent committed to taking care of my newborn and myself, cause if the mama is good baby is good.

My message for Korra Obidi and Justin Dean is: STOP FLAUNTING all your affairs on the social media. Get in CAHOOTS with your Higher Selves and Angels. Embrace Higher Consciousness. STOP and DO NOT feed your Ego again because your Ego is NEVER your Amigo. Remember, when you are in the (negative) Ego you will NEVER win!

Finally, I wish your duo peace, bliss and grace to overcome this turbulent. For the sake of your children; why do not you two seek for a way to reunite? Well, the choice is yours.

Sending you Peace, Love, Higher Consciousness and Light!

Kingsley Osajie

Bring A Beautiful Soul to Canada!

Our environment we live in has a big role in the shaping of our destiny and living our dreams. The role environment plays in our lives cannot be ignored! Even scientists and psychologists have realized that phenotypic factor which is about the physical environment plays a MAJOR role in our growth and development. You cannot become successful when you are living in an unhelpful environment neither can your dreams manifest when you are in an unhelpful environment.

“There is no joy, passion or fulfillment to be found in living a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.” Nelson Mandela

An unhelpful creates a roadblock and obstacles for your dreams because the opportunities, atmosphere, people and platforms you need to succeed CANNOT be found in an unhelpful environment. When you are living in an unhelpful environment the only reality you can have is one of difficulties, hardships, suffering, stagnancy, poverty and limitations. Unhelpful makes you crawl, shrink, hidden—with all your dreams, talents and potentials locked and stifled!! And that is a really terrible reality to be in. In my previous post, I talked about environment in details. You can read about it in the hyperlinked text.

I as an example, my current location (Nigeria) is and has been doing me a BIG DISSERVICE! Because Nigeria is an unhelpful environment to me; because of the corrupt government and system with the disharmonious environment—it makes me trapped and stagnated. That is why I am VERY passionate and determined to LEAVE Nigeria to Canada. Honestly, this is NOT life I am living in Nigeria at all!! Suffice to say that I am not in a positive life momentum. I believe that moving to Canada will pave the way for me to sprout the ideal life I deserve—one which is harmonious with my dreams and destiny; because as Nelson Mandela so eloquently puts it: “there is no joy, passion or fulfillment to be found in living a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.” This statement of Nelson Mandela holds TRUTH for me.

Truth be told, I have so much to offer the world but my current location has proven to be a barrier and limitations to me as all my dreams and potentials are stifled!! Canada is a country that is ideal for me where I can thrive, flourish and soar—hence becoming the Luminary I am meant to be and I can assure you that my coming to Canada is a BIG PLUS to Canada; trust me—I kid you not!! Because I am a bunch of talent and potentials that have not been discovered! I know the stuff I am made of. I am very correct to describe myself as visionary, innovative, talented, brilliant, smart, disciplined, trustworthy, intuitive, influential, inspiring, intrepid and creative.

For me to be able to start my journey of moving out of Nigeria to Canada; a dear friend and mentor of mine (Tricia Schinkel) have set up GoFundMe Campaign for me. Please kindly donate to my GoFundMe as I am will be very grateful for every dollar that will be donated to my GoFundMe. It is my determination to give back to the society once I get to Canada; because Canada is a place where I can sprout the life of my dream and a life that I deserve to live!

If you have any questions and further enquiries please contact Tricia Schinkel as she is the one organizing my GoFundMe; the link to my GoFundMe is below.

https://www.gofundme.com/f/bring-a-beautiful-soul-to-canada?utm_campaign=p_lico+share-sheet&utm_medium=copy_link&utm_source=customer

GoFundMe for Kingsley Osajie: organized by Tricia Schinkel

Thank you all for your kind donations. My family and I are indeed grateful

With deepest gratitude

Kingsley Osajie

Traditional Nigerian Religion

Sacred Grove of Osun Shrine: Google images

Religion in various forms is very strong in Nigeria. In other words, Nigerian people are VERY religious. Most Nigerians believe that there is an unseen supernatural world apart from the natural physical world. This other world is inhabited by beings who are the source of our knowledge of good and evil. They watch and judge us and if we offend them they may have to be appeased with prayers.

Certain individuals in the natural world—priests, prophets and diviners are believed to be endowed with special powers to make contact with the other world. They lay down ceremonies or rituals which must be observed if due honour is to be paid to the unseen beings.

The religious beliefs and practices of Nigerians can be classified under three main headings: Traditional religion, Islam and Christianity. This is the order in which each made its appearance in the country.

Traditional or indigenous religion continues to exert a strong influence on many people’s minds, partly because of its association with their birthplaces and family. Each ethnic group has its own religious traditions and these are often linked to some sacred spot or sports in the ethnic homeland; e.g. Ile-Ife. Yet, the various traditional religions have much in common: a remote but benevolent high god; under him, a number of lesser gods who interact with mankind and below them. Various spirits who inhabit natural objects such as: trees, streams, rocks, etc below them again and closest to living men and women, the spirits of the ancestors.

In Yoruba religion, for example, there are more than 400 lesser deities presided over by the high god Olorun. Because he is remote from mankind, shrines are not built to him and worship is not offered to him directly. The lesser gods on the other hand are the subject of special cults, each with its own priests and devotees. Eshu, the messenger of the gods, Ifa the god of divination and Shango the god of thunder and so on. Traditional religion was strong in other parts of Nigeria too.

In Igbo traditional religion, there were fewer gods. Although there was a remote high god, the most import figure was Ala or Ani; the goddess of the earth. In Hausa land, traditional religion has largely gone underground, owing to the influence of Islam, but belief in the existence of ‘Bori—spirits and their power to possess people, especially women—is strong in some areas. Each spirit is associated with a certain type of behaviour which is manifested by the possessed individual.

Divination, that is the discovery of what is unknown or is yet to happen by supernatural or magical means—it is an important element of traditional religion. It is often of the functions of the ‘medicine men’ or inhabitants. In Igboland, there also used to be several oracles which people consulted in order to seek answers to their problems. With the coming of Christianity, their influence waned.

It is so sad, disappointing and shameful that Africans are more religious in the entire planet. Yet, lacking behind in terms of development and progress; countries where the Bible and church are not paraded and where believe in God is little or none are obviously are doing well. Example, Singapore, Denmark, China, Japan etc. I am always thankful and happy that I left church and religion years ago. After I left Jehovah’s Witness I embraced spirituality and I could not have made a better choice! Even Jesus Christ said to worship God in spirit and in truth. Not according to religion!

Sadly in Nigeria where many people are possessed by religious spirits they misunderstand things which are natural part of human nature. For example, the Ozuu which is a natural wine used in ceremony in Nigeria; they say it is not good for a Christian to drink as it is used in shrines. Now the question is; are there not other things used in the shrines? One woman said that during her marriage she did not allow them bring in palm wine because it is used in shrines and idol worships.

There many so-called “Christians” (are they really Christians? I like to call them “Churchians”) who have this false belief that Kola nut is not supposed to be consumed by a “Christian” as it is used in idol worship and shrines. The truth is that all of these useless and blind beliefs are born out of religiosity, ignorance, misleading and brainwashing that religion has done to them!

To wrap up this article, I want you to watch this eye opening videos posted by a legendary Nigerian singer; Charly Boy. To me, Charly Boy seems to be one who is awakened. I love his Maverickness and Quirkiness. You are going to learn a lot from it. I actually enjoyed watching the videos as I watched it on repeat! They are videos you MUST watch! “A mind stretched by new knowledge can never go back to its prior form.” The Mastery of Life

Money Matters

Money is a subject of great interest to most people and most people want to get more of it. The lawless ones among us see robbery, arson and other forms of stealing as their way to it. Others enrich themselves by using the posts they occupy in companies or government departments to collect bribes or pickups for the award of contracts. Those without financial acumen whatever will merely save any money they acquire by keeping it in the proverbial box under the bed or hole in the ground in which case, clearly it earn no interest. But most people with legacy to spare will think of some kind of holdings, acting on the sound principle that one sum of money can be made to grow into a larger sum.

This can happen in various ways. In Nigeria, small businesses are very popular; saving becomes the foundation needed to establish a provision shop, say or to run a taxi. Although this type of business entails some risks it also offers the prospect of fairly quick and sometimes quite healthy credits. Less enterprising citizens will prefer to put their money in savings or mortgage accounts in banks or they purchase interests-bearing government obligations or stakes in companies that pay a regular refund.

Trading in stocks and shares is what large scale financial dealings are all about and in Nigeria as in other countries these are entirely carried out through the Stock Exchange. The Nigerian Stock Exchange has trading floors in Lagos, Port Harcourt and Kano; it also has branches in Kaduna, Onitsha and Ibadan. The middlemen of the Stock Exchange are known as stockbrokers; they buy and sell shares on behalf of clients for which they charge a tax. Often the client is a company seeking to purchase shares in another company, sometimes with a view to taking over completely. The reason is that several companies operate in a particular line of business. E.g. timber production or textiles and each have a natural interest in driving out competitors and establishing a uniformity.

However, some of those dealing in the Stock Exchange are not there to further the interests of a company engaged in productive business; they are there merely to accumulate that is to purchase shares when they are relatively cheap and sell them again when they fetch higher price. At any time certain shares are increasing in attractiveness and price while others are less attractive and their price is falling.

Occasionally, there is a general loss of confidence in the Stock Exchange, people rush to sell all their shares and there may even be a worldwide Stock Market strike.

The Kind Lady! Oh….! How Sweet and Heartwarming!!

Lavonda Wright Myers and Jayden Sutton: Legit News

Lady Gifts Secondary School boy Who Treks Long Distance to Work a New Car, She Said His Heart Made Her Cry

A kindhearted lady identified as Lavonda Wright Myers has put a smile on the face of a secondary schoolboy who treks long hours to work After her first encounter with the 18-year-old boy named Jayden Sutton, Myers took it upon herself to get him a new car and made good with that vow Speaking on what inspired her kind gesture, the businesswoman said his heart and determination made her cry.

A young boy’s hard work and positive approach to life have earned him a life-changing gesture from a stranger. 18-year-old secondary school student, Jayden Sutton who is from Cobb County, Georgia, US was surprised with a new whip by a kind woman who had given him a ride in her car.

Determined against all odds, the young lad would trek about 7 miles every day after closing from school by 3:30 pm to do his shift of 6-7 hours at the restaurant.

By the time he finished work and trekked back, Jayden would arrive home by 11:30 pm. A date with destiny On December 10, 2020, a lady identified as Lavonda Wright Myers was driving by when she saw the boy trekking in the rain. The businesswoman offered him a ride and learnt about his touching story of how he trekked because of his inability to pay for Uber rides.

“Once I dropped him off to work, his heart and determination filled my eyes with tears.” He said, ‘Ma’am, I walk because I have to.’

“He was smiling in good spirits, and that’s a child worth blessing,” she told newsmen.

She immediately moved into action From that point, the woman vowed to get him a car and shared his story online as well as set up a GoFundMe page for him. Within days of setting the page, it received $6,635 (N.7 million) in donations.

She bargained with a car dealer to bring a Honda price from $7,800 (N3.2 million) to $7,000 (2.9 million) and added $635 of her own money to complete it. Jayden was overwhelmed with joy and showered encomiums on Myers for the car gift. In his words: “I love her for it. I just want to thank you so much, you don’t even understand how much. “I knew that if I had to walk to work every day to get a car, that is what I was going to do. If you’re doing something good or trying to reach a goal, keep doing it. You might get some help. That’s what happened to me.”

GOD DID IT YALL 😭🙌🏾 ‼️Plz know GOD PROVIDES‼️🗣Jayden no more walking 7 miles to work after school young man. GOD bless everyone that donated entrusting me & GOD with your seed I declare a 100 fold return. On, Dec 10, I passed a 12th grade stranger walking in a light rain at the speed of lightning headed to work after school. After working a 7hr shift, He would walk miles back in the cold arriving home around 1130pm at night with this same smile! I gave him a ride to work on DEC 10th and I told him in BOLD FAITH the next time you see me it’ll be with a car the lord’s going to bless you with. We prayed together on the steps of his job and activated our faith! This child nor his family never asked me for a penny it was all GOD‼️I sowed my seed first on Dec 11th, created Gofund me on Dec 12th with a goal of $4,000 and within 30days GOD demonstrated his love, power and ability to provide over/above my goal with a $7,000 miracle in the middle of a pandemic. Thank you Jesus for an ear to hear, a heart ❤for your people and the obedience to be a blessing in this World 🌎 His mom’s car was recently totaled and she was laid off from work. If you’d like to be a blessing to her as well you can give on the Gofund link on my Facebook page posted on Dec 12th. 👈🏾 I definitely heard GOD clearly concerning this family. She said this act of kindness from a genuine heart expecting nothing in return has blown her mind. She thanks me daily by text and tears of gratefulness is her sentiments to GOD and everyone that gave. Jayden Sutton will never forget this reward for his Faithulness over a few things as an amazing YOUNG BLACK MAN!!!! All the Glory belongs to you GOD! I bless your great NAME 😭 Everyone from around the world that donated, believed and prayed with me thank you for trusting me with every penny and I bless GOD for your sacrifice. I declare it returns to you 100 fold. My husband was overly supportive and found the perfect car for Jayden🚗 Nalley Honda Dealership heard the story and dropped the price for us as well to meet budget 🙌🏾 GOD’S FAVOR & 🖐🏾was evident all around. 🙏🏾‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️

Netizens shower encomiums on the kind lady Wanda Morrison said: “You are so amazing, My God continue to bless you so that you can be a blessing to others. This is also my prayer for others and myself as well.” Dynomite Jones stated: “Lord !!!!Bless this child and u as well plus blessings towards anyone that took the time out to donate!!!!My heart is filled.”

Michael Anderson wrote:

“Cuz you have always had a heart for other people even for me may God continue to bless you and may you never change reap the harvest he promised you!!! You shall and you will recover it all! Love you!!”

Sherri Wright opined: “God Bless you abundantly for hearing Him and willing to do the work so God could put His Super on the natural!! You just ENLARGE YOUR TERRITORY and increased the faith of everyone that gave and that family!”

Source: Legit News,

https://www.legit.ng/people/1457602-kind-lady-gifts-secondary-schoolboy-who-treks-long-distance-work-a-new-car-she-said-his-heart-made-her-cry/

Talking About Intelligence

Hi there!! I wanted to tell us about Intelligence. Hence I am sharing this post with us today, Hope you enjoy reading through it.

According to Psychologists, there are four types of Intelligence:

1) Intelligence Quotient (IQ)

2) Emotional Quotient (EQ)

3) Social Quotient (SQ)

4) Adversity Quotient (AQ)

1. Intelligence Quotient (IQ): this is the measure of your level of comprehension. You need IQ to solve maths, memorize things, and recall lessons.

2. Emotional Quotient (EQ): this is the measure of your ability to maintain peace with others, keep to time, be responsible, be honest, respect boundaries, be humble, genuine and considerate.

3. Social Quotient (SQ): this is the measure of your ability to build a network of friends and maintain it over a long period of time.

People that have higher EQ and SQ tend to go further in life than those with a high IQ but low EQ and SQ. Most schools capitalize on improving IQ levels while EQ and SQ are played down.

A man of high IQ can end up being employed by a man of high EQ and SQ even though he has an average IQ.

Your EQ represents your Character, while your SQ represents your Charisma. Give in to habits that will improve these three Qs, especially your EQ and SQ.

Now there is a 4th one, a new paradigm:

4. The Adversity Quotient (AQ): The measure of your ability to go through a rough patch in life, and come out of it without losing your mind.

When faced with troubles, AQ determines who will give up, who will abandon their family, and who will consider suicide.

Parents please expose your children to other areas of life than just Academics. They should adore manual labour (never use work as a form of punishment), Sports and Arts. Develop their IQ, as well as their EQ, SQ and AQ. They should become multifaceted human beings able to do things independently of their parents.

Finally, do not prepare the road for your children. Prepare your children for the road.”

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